We talk but we don't listen

We're finished, not literally, but in my mind we have. There's no trust, no love, no care. This isn't a relationship. A relationship is spending time with each other, sitting for hours and talking, cuddling up with each other, caring about one another more than anything in the world, just being there. He's there, in person, but his mind is elsewhere. We talk but we don't listen, not really. I listen, i care about things he says send him random texts about it to check if he's ok. I dont tell him anymore because i know he's not listening. A relationship isn't him sitting on his xbox whilst i watch him. He used to try for me, he used to want me so much but now he has me that's all stopped. He asked Bria to go to his football game on Sunday. He tries for her. I know she wouldn't have went, it's too far away. But why ask? He denied it, we had a big argument in which i told him he could deny it all he wants, i know he's lying. He told me to shut the fuck up. I want respect. No one has the right to talk to me like that, especially not someone i've given so much to. I want honesty. He admitted i was right later, its the lie that bothers me more than anything. Because, asking Bria that's one issue. But if you can lie that easily to someone you 'love' that's an issue which is never ending. How can i trust him if he lies? I told him if he wanted to be with me to start acting like it, to which he replied 'Hahaha yer full aee pish hen, cya later' If that was his attempt at finishing with me, he's pathetic. I thought i meant more than that to him. That our relationship would finish sivally, as friends even. That's just calous and cruel and if i ever meant anything to him he would never have dared to finish it like that. I've started talking to Ben, not because i want to be with Ben but because he cares. He gives me someone to talk to about anything. I trust Ben. He almost reminds me of how Ally used to be. He tries. I miss that.